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Engaged or married and looking for that "Happily Ever After"? Good for YOU! You want to make the most of your life and your relationship with your spouse effects almost everything!
We all have our own special charm that makes us unique, but this same uniqueness can also be the very source of division in marriage.
Your personality traits and life experiences can bring you together or drive a wedge between you - so why not take control?
Sometimes a few small adjustments are all it takes to get back on track and reignite the enthusiasm for life and each other.
Picture your relationship like an engine - if things start running rough or stalling out, tune-ups or checkups may be in order so everyone involved runs smoother (and happier!).
Remember to take time out for yourself too; sure relationships take work, but don’t let them diminish who you are as a person.
Skip the downward plunge with marital troubles - jump onto the "Going Up" elevator where hope & confidence are restored.
With just a few simple tweaks here and there to nurture your relationship, a happy marriage is within reach!
The Relationship Transformer, Connie Durham
While it's normal to have disagreements, the key is to remember that healthy happy marriages can lift you up while troubled ones tend to zap your confidence like drain batteries.
#1 Make sure your spouse knows that they are number one. (sometimes the kids wiggle into this spot)
#2 Lift and Support one another by truly listening, encouraging, and affirming.
#3 Turn up the communication by talking about your day, ideas for your future, and yes.....even feelings.
#4 This is a BIG one, don't sweat the little things (and do know the difference) and forgive. Think....now how much did that REALLY matter?
#5 Build trust by keeping your word and lean on each other in the things that you're each GOOD at.
Be the person you want them to be. Be kind, thoughtful and helpful. It's important that you LIKE your SPOUSE and that YOU be likable too!
I've seen this happen first hand.
There may have been red flags while you were dating, but once you got married, the real deal was staring you in the face and it was scary.
If your spouse grew up in a family with abusive behavior like alcohol, drugs, physical or mental abuse, and yes divorced parents, they may have some issues. Time may mend, but seeking help speeds up the process. (If there's physical abuse seek help.)
#1 - Know it's not your fault
#2 - Seek help (My choice would be the Christian Church)
#3 - No one can exhibit behavior they've never seen before.
You know that ole saying that you are like the 5 people you hang around the most. Well, take a look for yourself, then your spouse.
How was your childhood molded? What kind of values were instilled in you by your parents? We can only imitate what we've seen. So again I say "You can only exhibit the behavior you have witnessed in your life." This is big.
but you can create a better future
I believe there are three things that color how we see the world and make decisions.
#1 Our belief in God as the creator - God's word (Holy Bible) is the guide that heals and keeps us out of troubling situations. (If you're atheist or believe the universe created it's self....don't leave me, I'm not going to preach to you)
#2 All of our PAST experiences from childhood, choices as a teenager and young adult, along with the adults in our lives, made us who we are today. As humans we need to be heard, understood, and appreciated.
#3 According to your Personality style (behavior style) you have different needs, emotions, abilities, and preferences in life. This is a great place to start, and where I can help by helping you identify the personality style of you and your spouse. (These are hard facts everyone can work with)
Looking to be heard, understood, and appreciated by our spouse, but sometimes there are factors that are out of our control. Things we just don't understand.
Need to seek help in unveiling what the root cause is. Our past experiences in life begin to predict our future.
Avoidable wrong choices and disappointment, failed marriages, divided families, and a lifetime of wrong choices and disappointment.
You can change your circumstances. Discover why you and your spouse are not getting along and how to turn it around now.
Connie's Signature Program offered quarterly
"I loved learning about all of the different personality types, even my husband (who honestly didn't want to do the class) LOVED it once it started! We still yell out our personality types when they really start to show themselves! "
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In how we communicate with each and how we parent. Knowing our differences helps us to be better communicators. I’ve learned that my husband just needs me to be direct and say what I’m thinking or feeling vs keeping it bottled up and then exploding. We try to take those differences and use them to balance us out.
Amee Davison - Realtor
"Kelly said, I did the DISC program several years ago and it helps doing it again, as years have changed the circumstances in life i.e. retirement, work, empty nest, adult children now married, etc. It's wonderful to have different types of people in this world and know how to relate based on their personality."
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After more than four decades of marriage and a family full of kids, grandkids, laughter and tears - I know what it's like to struggle with the stress and frustration that can come along with long-term relationships.
Too often couples get caught up in everyday worries, losing sight of their original love connection as they become bogged down by disagreements over money or children.
I provide guidance through these trying times so you don't fall into accepting those things which divide you instead of embracing them as moments for growth together.
Through my own experience rooted in faith--which teaches me there is something good within all people--I help guide you back towards partner, to rekindle the spark once shared between you!
The Relationship Transformer,
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