Hi there! 

It's the MONTH of LOVE!!  Enjoy it, create it, find it!

Engaged or married and looking for that "Happily Ever After"?  Good for YOU!  You want to make the most of your life and your relationship with your spouse effects almost everything! 

Glad you're here!

 We all have our own special charm that makes us unique, but this same uniqueness can also be the very source of division in marriage.

Your personality traits and life experiences can bring you together or drive a wedge between you - so why not take control? 

Sometimes a few small adjustments are all it takes to get back on track and reignite the enthusiasm for life and each other.

Picture your relationship like an engine - if things start running rough or stalling out, tune-ups or checkups may be in order so everyone involved runs smoother (and happier!).

Remember to take time out for yourself too; sure relationships take work, but don’t let them diminish who you are as a person. 

Skip the downward plunge with marital troubles - jump onto the "Going Up" elevator where hope & confidence are restored.

  With just a few simple tweaks here and there to nurture your relationship, a happy marriage is within reach!

The Relationship Transformer, Connie Durham

 Stop

the frustration, misunderstandings

and energy drainers,

so that you can 

feel the

Love again

When you work with me,

you'll follow the Triple R Method

Recognize, Resolve, & Reset 

#1 - You will recognize & identify the key marital challenges you and your partner are facing

#2 -  Learn new ways you can Resolve the Conflict and melt away your differences

#3 - You'll use communication and connection secrets most do not know,

and begin to reset your life together.

YOU may be doing everything right,

but there's still Trouble

I've seen this happen first hand. 

There may have been red flags while you were dating, but once you got married, the real deal was staring you in the face and it was scary.

Hurting people hurt others. 

If your spouse grew up in a family with abusive behavior like alcohol, drugs, physical or mental abuse, and yes divorced parents, they may have some issues.  Time may mend, but seeking help speeds up the process.  (If there's physical abuse seek help.)

#1 - Know it's not your fault

#2 - Seek help (My choice would be the Christian Church)

#3 - No one can exhibit behavior they've never seen before.

You know that ole saying that you are like the 5 people you hang around the most.  Well, take a look for yourself, then your spouse.

How was your childhood molded?  What kind of values were instilled in you by your parents?  We can only imitate what we've seen.  So again I say "You can only exhibit the behavior you have witnessed in your life."  This is big.

You can't change the past

but you can create a better future

 I believe there are three things that color how we see the world and make decisions.

#1 Our belief in God as the creator - God's word (Holy Bible) is the guide that heals and keeps us out of troubling situations.  (If you're atheist or believe the universe created it's self....don't leave me, I'm not going to preach to you)

#2 All of our PAST experiences from childhood, choices as a teenager and young adult, along with the adults in our lives, made us who we are today. As humans we need to be heard, understood, and appreciated. 

#3  According to your Personality style (behavior style) you have different needs, emotions, abilities,  and preferences in life.  This is a great place to start, and where I can help by helping you identify the personality style of you and your spouse.  (These are hard facts everyone can work with)

• Often opposites attract and then crush each other
• We assume we want the same things, but don't
• You can begin to resolve conflict as you understand your differences and learn how to relate better to one another
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